Samantha Kannan a psychologist living in San Francisco has shared the effects strict parenting had on her ,read below:
I was raised by strict parents. Extremely strict.
8pm curfew even in college. For every minute late, not allowed to leave the house for one day (excluding church and school). 5 minutes late from traffic? There goes your entire week basically.
Church thrice per week. No exceptions.
Not allowed to ‘talk back’. Even if you’re not and you’re just explaining your point of view. Any word against direct orders is being disrespectful. Even suggesting a better way to do things. It’s not your place, be quiet and obey.
Smile in public at all times.
One hour of computer time, closely monitored.
Anything that they buy, they can take from you as punishment. Even if you buy your own phone thinking you’ve outsmarted them, they take your SIM card.
No going to any friend’s houses unless your parents know their entire family. And no one wants to come to your house because you won’t be able to have fun.
- “The purpose of children is to be servants” being an actual sentence used on multiple occasions.
- Being told that you’re not allowed to enroll in college because your parents don’t want you exposed to liberals or secularists, or drugs.
- Not being allowed to listen to rap, dye your hair, or use the phone after 9pm.
But enough of my childhood rules. Shall we get to the consequences?
I have a huge fear of authority. My boss is probably one of the nicest people I know and he’s seen me cry at least a dozen times in 1.5 years.
I’m an absolute pushover and adjust myself to anyone else to avoid conflict.
I also have really tight standards for cleaning and have somehow grown to love doing it. I’m psychotic and have been banned from cleaning the thumb’s house and my boss once asked me why I was ‘detailing the fax machine’ lol.
When you have to hide all the time, you get really good at lying. I had to unlearn it as an adult because I was so used to it.
Being terrified of having children and doing the same thing to them.
What are your thoughts on strict parenting?
